Have you ever had one of those times that a friend sat you down and gave you some advice or information that you needed to hear but most friends were afraid to say anything to you about the topic because they didn’t want to offend you or make you upset?  I’ve had some struggles lately that have affected my positive attitude that I normally have had as a personality trait.  It’s been a difficult time, and I’ve had a group of friends that I would see once in a while and share what I was going through.  They were understanding and each gave me some cheering up and “you’ll make it through this difficult time.”

I was starting to realize that I needed to make a shift in my perspective as my frustration was weighing me down.  One of the friends who had heard about my struggles met with me one day and chatted a bit about what has been happening and told me what she thought needed to change.  I’m sure she was wondering if I’d be open to her counsel, or if I’d get angry at what she said.  I’m glad she wasn’t afraid to speak up not knowing how I’d react.  I was very open to what she was saying and acknowledged that I knew I needed to shift my perspective.  The situation has not yet changed, but perhaps my changing how I look at what is happening can have an effect.  I certainly hope so, but if not, at least I know I’m going to be looking at things with a little bit more of a positive spin.

I hope you all have friends who can be completely honest with you and that you are willing to actually hear what is being said.  Our friends usually have our best interests in mind when counseling us (although not all advice may be correct for the situation).  Listen with an open mind, consider what is being said, and determine if you need to heed the advice.  Whether you do or not is up to you, but I challenge you to be the kind of person with whome your friends can be completely honest.

Thanks friend (you know who you are) for your time and courage to speak to me about my issue.  I really do appreciate it! 

Candy